In this day in age, texting has become a big part of the dating world. Most of the people use texting to contact their potential dates that they found in online dating apps. Less and less people today do it the old fashion way, you know, like actually approaching someone and starting a conversation, and there is a good reason for that.

Texting is good because it gives us time to think through our answer and is a good platform to creatively and efficiently put our thoughts in writing. Texting is also a good way to protect ourselves from rejections. It’s much better for us to be rejected through text, rather than to be rejected into our face and it is far easier to reject someone though a text than look into their face after we say “no” to them.

People, no matter if they’re a man or a woman, don’t like to hurt other peoples feelings. (Not accounting for sociopaths)
We find “clever” ways to reject people without outright rejecting them, or finding a way to reject them as softly as humanly possible. “Through the roses” or “Killing them softly” as they say.

The problem arises when the rejection text becomes so confusing to the receiver, that they don’t understand the main point of the text. While this leaves even more questions in the air, the receiver of the text becomes confused and asks for explanations.

Not knowing how to explain the text more simply “though the roses” the more bold rejector tells the truth and not so bold rejector outright “Ghosts” them, to save themselves from uncomfortable situation.

As most people try to avoid uncomfortable situations, one needs to learn how to read between the lines of the text to limit their confusion and understand exactly whats going on. When unsure of the meaning of the text, it helps to make the bottom line of the text very clear to yourself. Don’t get confused by all the “roses” in the text, look at the bottom line, make it black and white.

Here are just some examples of common rejection texts from women.

  • Hey, so nice to hear from you again, unfortunately I am extremely busy for the next couple of weeks and I cant meet you, but I really want to see you again.”
  • Yea, I had a great time with you too last night, but I am not sure where I am in my life right now, I need time and space to think things through.
  • I loved our date! And I like you too. You are so funny and smart that Im sure you will find a better girl for yourself
  • “You are such a great guy, but we’re so different.”
  • “I liked hanging out with you, you are really cool, I think we should be friends.”

When receiving texts like this and to minimise the confusion. It is important to break down the text and separate the fluff and clutter from the main thought behind the text.

So if she says “Hey, so nice to hear from you again, unfortunately, I am extremely busy for the next couple of weeks and I cant meet you, but I really want to see you again.” the main point of the text is “I don’t want to see you” and the rest of the text doesn’t really mean much, its just there to soften the blow for you. It doesn’t matter that she says that she wants to see you again. It is still a rejection.

In contrary, the fact is, if a woman wants to see you, she will make time in her busy schedule for you. Even if she is so busy that she doesn’t have time to have dinner, she will still find time for you, because she wants you.

As most men don’t understand what truly is being said, they believe that they still have a chance and they try to negotiate with the woman who just rejected them. That in turn makes the woman “ghost” them or cold heartedly reject them.

I see women write in message broads and forums that they wish that men would just “get it” and understand the hidden message behind the text. But the truth is that most of the guys really don’t understand it.

So for stepping up on dating game, it is essential to learn to decode the way women communicate, how to understand these hidden messages and how to see through the rose bushes.

Of course not only women communicate covertly, every body does to some extent. The great rule of thumb to go by is to begin looking at peoples actions rather than only listening their words, because actions speak much louder that words.